To be able to look back upon one’s life in satisfaction, is to live twice - G. K. Gibran One question that I ask my young clients and typically produces a grin like a Cheshire cat followed by elaborate details is: When you look back at your life, what would you like people to say … Continue reading A Million Careers in One Life
"What is knowledge if you don’t use it" – Dr. Jane Carter MD A career planning technique I teach my clients is to reflect on their knowledge. Many clients initially reject the technique claiming they do not have time for this. However, once they give it a try, they typically cannot stop talking about its … Continue reading Wait! What? I Don’t Have Time to Reflect on My Knowledge
I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become – C. Jung
"The best way to predict your future is to create it." – A. Lincoln Here we go again...Another quote telling you that you are in charge of creating your future. What to do? How do you handle the pressure to narrow down your university choices when you have no idea where to start? How do … Continue reading What Not to Do When Narrowing Down Future Education Choices
“Okay, are you ready for this?” the overly excited adult in your life asks. “Umm...Sure” you calmly respond.
Desire! That’s one secret to every man’s career. Not education. Not being born with hidden talents. Desire - J. Carson
What are you capable of? What is driving your will? Who is your mentor? If you can figure the answers to these to questions, then you will find the way to accomplish your dreams.
"Failure doesn’t kill you...it increases your desire to make something happen." - K. Costner Do you remember the first time you failed? How did it feel to be a failure? What did you do about it? Failure should be your motivator to stand up and try again. Do not shy from looking back on these … Continue reading Congratulations! You just failed.
"You can steer yourself in any direction you choose." – Dr. Seuss Summer is here and it is time to relax and have fun! Yes, it is the time to rejuvenate and focus on the moment. As much fun as this sounds, summer can be the time to start reflecting on your career. Let us … Continue reading Summer Is Here! Time to Meet YOU.
Have you ever reflected on the number of breaths you take in a minute? Do you remember how you felt the last time you took a deep breath? How often do you take the time to make sure you are breathing properly? In the last couple of conferences that I attended, there seemed to be a big focus on the importance of breathing. Apparently most of us are not focusing enough on breathing and this is causing us undue stress and anxiety. The benefits of breathing are many and yet we do not seem to give it the time it deserves. Inhale! Beyond providing you with the oxygen you need to survive and with many health benefits, slow calculated breathing acts as a de-stressor and increases your focus. Scientists are saying that breathing is a great technique to get rid of anxiety. Yoga instructors cannot stop talking about the many paybacks you get, such as an increase in your ability to control your life, simply by taking the time to focus on your inhales and exhales. Exhale! Most people are typically exhaling without properly inhaling. They are too busy running their daily errands that they do not inhale like they should. Inhaling should be a focused mechanism that involves taking a deep breath in – yes, until your stomach is full with air. You need to follow this up by a full exhale to the point where you feel your diaphragm is hitting your rib cage. Check out Dr. Singh’s article if you would like to learn more (Evidence-Based Role of Hypercapnia and Exhalation Phase in Vagus Nerve Stimulation: Insights into Hypercapnic Yoga Breathing Exercises). The most basic breathing technique that I recommend for my clients to get rid of anxiety has been nicely labeled by John Assaraf (Read his book if you would like to learn more - Innercise: The New Science to Unlock Your Brain's Hidden Power) as “Take 6: Calm the Circuits”. Are you ready for this? It entails inhaling through your nose for 4 to 6 counts and exhaling through your mouth with the same number of counts. Remember to exhale until your diaphragm hits your ribcage. Repeat 6 to 10 times. Next, I suggest that you take the time to reflect on what is causing the anxiety. As an example, if you are stressed or anxious right before an interview. I recommend you complete your “Take 6” breathing exercises and aim to focus on the positives of the situation by repeating a sentence or two that boost your confidence. For one client it was, “I have an interview, I know what I am here for, I have prepared and I am going to ace this interview”. Complete this exercise with a repetition of the breathing technique; breathe in for 4 to 6 counts and breath out for four to six counts. How will you ensure that you are taking the appropriate amount of breaths every day to stay calm and focused? Try it out and let me know how it goes. And yes, please feel free to share your own techniques.